Dave and Shelly Roberts

I love the Roberts. They are both such tender, patient and loving people. They cultivate such a safe and loving home atmosphere, which I think comes in direct relation to their efforts to keep contention out of their marriage. They are 100% committed to each other and their family. I love them for their soft-spoken and steady example!

The dates and details!

What are your names? 

Shelly (sweetie) Dave (Hon) Roberts

When did you meet?

05/04

In 8 words or less, describe where or how you met. 

In Richfield, while Dave was fixing his radio in a parking lot.

What was your first date? 

Dinner date with friends

When were you married?

4/23/05

Where were you married? 

Richfield

How many children do you share? 

We have 5 1 boy , 2 girls, and our twins in heaven

Getting to Know You!

When and/or how did you know you wanted to marry each other?

Dave: when Shelly got really sick I didn't want to leave her. 

Shelly: no matter what was going on with me he always was playing with Andrew . He had so much love to give.

What is something that your spouse does (something they may not even realize!) that makes your heart skip a beat and brings you joy.

Dave: when she dances 

Shelly: brings home a chocolate bar behind his back

What did you love about your spouse in the beginning that you still love about them now?

Shelly: Dave is patient and caring 

Dave: Her smile, it’s reassuring

What is one of your favorite dates you've been on as a couple?

Shelly: unplanned dropping the kids off up north at their cousins, went to some crazy play at SCERA. Went shopping had some alone time but what I remember the most is the laughs. 

Dave: picnic up at saws meadow when we were first dating it was the first time I told her I loved her.

What's the best gift you've received from your spouse?

Dave: my wedding ring 

Shelly: wedding ring

Why Marriage Rocks

What's one thing you love to talk about when you have nothing pressing to talk about?

Dave: my childhood 

Shelly: family

Tell us about a trial you have faced together and how you feel you were successful in overcoming it, or what you have learned during it.

I feel like we are given our trials for a reason, Dave and I have always faced everything together with open communication, when we lost our twins that was a really hard place to be, because Dave nor I had any faith just mostly anger. Until I was part of circle as they were giving Abigail a blessing, I knew she would not come home, the spirit spoke to me and I knew she would be ok. I took that week to love her until Dave could come say good bye. I feel like as hard as a trial as it was those girls have helped our family out so much. Dave and I have even learned things about ourselves.

What makes your marriage unique?

We don't ever fight

What are advantages of marriage?

Dave: no curfew her mom can't send me home 

Shelly: more intimate even on a mental level

What blessings have come into your life because of marriage?

Dave: opportunity to go to the temple 

Shelly: my children

Advice

What's a practice or routine you've established that keeps your marriage healthy?

Shelly: We like to go for a daily ride in the car and talk about the day 

Dave: going on dates

What's one principle you think is important in a healthy marriage?

Daves: never yell 

Shelly: never name call

What is a positive influence on your marriage when things get hard?

Dave: Shelly's dad 

Shelly: Shelly's mom

If you had time to talk to newlyweds, what would your greatest piece of advice be?

Don't rush the kids. Enjoy each other's company prepare and plan.

If you need a little marriage recharge, what's your trick?

Weekend getaway

As you look into the future, what do you see that will help keep your marriage strong?

Attending the temple

What's the secret of a happy marriage?

Don't fight (or never say things you don't mean)

What is a simple marital practice you would share with a friend who may say they are facing challenges in their marriage?

Dave: remember what it was about your spouse that made you want to get married, if you can do that, you can remember the good stuff. 

Shelly: start simple again little notes of appreciation instead of being negative. Try to be positive. And see if the direction of the relationship changes.

“Anyone who imagines that bliss [in marriage] is normal is going to waste a lot of time running around shouting that he has been robbed. [The fact is] most putts don’t drop. Most beef is tough. Most children grow up to be just people. Most successful marriages require a high degree of mutual toleration. Most jobs are more often dull than otherwise. …Life is like an old-time rail journey—delays, sidetracks, smoke, dust, cinders and jolts, interspersed only occasionally by beautiful vistas and thrilling bursts of speed.The trick is to thank the Lord for letting you have the ride” (“Big Rock Candy Mountains,” Deseret News, 12 June 1973, A4 as quoted by Gordon B. Hinckley, 1996).